Ultimate Blogs — Personal Developement
Self love = selfish but that’s OK
When you are in a relationship changing yourself to please someone else can start out small. You forget that what you wanted in the first place, was to find a real connection with someone who wanted the real you and not just the idea of you. Learning not to get lost in it is key and Self love is necessary! But if you should find yourself in a dark place where you barely recognize the person you have become, don’t worry, that bad b-tch (or male equivalent) is there under somewhere. Some people may not care for them the way they loved the version of you that was always aiming to please, but I promise you, that the “new you” won’t GAF!!!
May is National Mental Health Month – in the spirit of this I would like to share the RAIN theory to help you deal with undesirable or misunderstood feelings.
Recognize – notice the feeling – do not dismiss it
Allow yourself to feel this feeling & Accept it, don’t fight it
Investigate – ask yourself WHY you are feeling the way you do; it could be a combination of things and not just the said thing (or person) you are getting upset with.
Non-identification – separate yourself from the feeling